Thursday, May 14, 2015

A lil story about my mom and I

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Hello darlings! I'm a bad daughter, I don't go back to my hometown often, average once a month, at most twice a month. I always feel like I can't finish my works and I have to stay back and do my things over the weekend. I always try to go home on festivals and my family's birthday. And so, I went back hometown for Mother's day :)

Like usual, the whole family including my grandma, aunties and uncles would have a big family gathering on a mother's day. And there's something that the family would always mention and remember, that is the serious car accident that I had in 2007 on a Mother's day. In 2012, my car was broken and my things got stolen on a mother's day too. Pretty unlucky. But I didn't really avoid anything on this Mother's day.

Anyway, here's a lil story about my mom and I. I was kinda rebellious during the teen and that's the period when I got very negative and I didn't have a good relationship with my mom. I didn't hate her or dislike her, nor shout at her (I never dare to), but just we weren't very close. My mind was rebellious but physically I'm a good girl. 

My mom didn't allow me to do a lot of things, like learning musics, to study abroad or even have a choice to choose my future, didn't allow me to travel with cousins, etc. I listened to her and respected her, and so mentally I became bad. I was very negative. I blamed my brother for making my mom so unfair to me (although there's nothing to do with him) because of his existence. I wanted reasons on why she didn't allow me to do things, but there was always no reason given.

After that, my dad kinda settled the issues, and made everything better.

My mom and I got closer when I studied uni. I always went home and storied her my uni life. It was great and there was so much to share about with my mom. Even until today, when I go home, I tell what I did in the city, and how's work life, how's love life. And my mom would share her stories too.

It's really amazing how things change sometimes. Although my little heart got broken by my mom before, it's so amazing that we can chat a lot today and I always feel comfortable to chat with my mom about my problems, "GIRLS TALK"

3 things that my mom taught me:

1. Always say nice things about people. 多说好话。She meant like don't say how naughty is that kid running around the restaurant, how ugly is that person, etc. For me, it's ok to complain if things happen to you, but don't criticize or discriminate people especially when they do nothing to you.

She taught me not to encourage people to get divorce no matter how bad is people's relationship. It's people's matter and it would be better to say positive things than negative.

2.  It's more important to have a man who treats you well than having a rich man. For example, my dad. ^^

3. 退一步,海阔天空。Calm down and don't say too much to avoid arguments. My mom is so good at this and trust me, I never seen my parents fight this 25 years. Sometimes my dad would say something which if I'm his wife, I would say "I dare you to say one more time!" but my mom would always keep quiet when necessary. In a way, my mom is kinda always give way to make things better. 

My mom can really speak in a sweet tone like a girl sometimes which I find it disgusting at times. She can sound so manja =.=" tell me how can my dad's heart don't melt!? lol

I really feel thankful to my mom for everything. I'm glad to have a mom who likes to make herself pretty and that's what that have made the Eahui today. I always see my mom does her nail polish, makeup, dress up and shopping (opps). I learnt half of my mom's pattern. She taught me to use the blue Maybelline mascara when I was in high school haha 

I wish I can save enough money asap to bring my mom to travel Japan, that's her dream :)

till next time, smoooch!

1 comment:

Emilio Fernandez said...

Good morning, how are you?

My name is Emilio, I am a Spanish boy and I live in a town near to Madrid. I am a very interested person in knowing things so different as the culture, the way of life of the inhabitants of our planet, the fauna, the flora, and the landscapes of all the countries of the world etc. in summary, I am a person that enjoys traveling, learning and respecting people's diversity from all over the world.

I would love to travel and meet in person all the aspects above mentioned, but unfortunately as this is very expensive and my purchasing power is quite small, so I devised a way to travel with the imagination in every corner of our planet. A few years ago I started a collection of used stamps because through them, you can see pictures about fauna, flora, monuments, landscapes etc. from all the countries. As every day is more and more difficult to get stamps, some years ago I started a new collection in order to get traditional letters addressed to me in which my goal was to get at least 1 letter from each country in the world. This modest goal is feasible to reach in the most part of countries, but unfortunately, it is impossible to achieve in other various territories for several reasons, either because they are very small countries with very few population, either because they are countries at war, either because they are countries with extreme poverty or because for whatever reason the postal system is not functioning properly.

For all this, I would ask you one small favor:
Would you be so kind as to send me a letter by traditional mail from Brunei? I understand perfectly that you think that your blog is not the appropriate place to ask this, and even, is very probably that you ignore my letter, but I would call your attention to the difficulty involved in getting a letter from that country, and also I don’t know anyone neither where to write in Brunei in order to increase my collection. a letter for me is like a little souvenir, like if I have had visited that territory with my imagination and at same time, the arrival of the letters from a country is a sign of peace and normality and an original way to promote a country in the world. My postal address is the following one:

Emilio Fernandez Esteban
Avenida Juan de la Cierva, 44
28902 Getafe (Madrid)

If you wish, you can visit my blog where you can see the pictures of all the letters that I have received from whole World.

Finally, I would like to thank the attention given to this letter, and whether you can help me or not, I send my best wishes for peace, health and happiness for you, your family and all your dear beings.

Yours Sincerely

Emilio Fernandez